Day ten isn't a milestone anyone posts about, and that's part of why it can be hard. The first week had a clear goal. Now you're in the middle, and it can feel like nothing is happening except time passing slowly.
Many people notice the sharp urges are a little less frequent by now. What replaces them is often a quieter loneliness. You might not want to text them every hour, but you feel their absence in ordinary moments, like seeing something funny and having nobody to send it to.
Give the "send it to them" moments somewhere else to go
So much of a relationship is small sharing. Photos, memes, a bad day at work. When that outlet disappears, the habit keeps looking for it. Pick a new place on purpose. A group chat with friends, a sibling or a notes file of things you'd have told them all work. It sounds simple, and it helps more than you'd think.
Expect odd triggers
By now the obvious triggers are familiar. Day ten is often when the strange ones appear: a smell, a street, a brand of crisps they liked. These moments can knock you sideways for an hour. Let them. A strong reaction to a small thing doesn't mean you're back at the start.
Start something small that's yours
This is a good time to pick up one thing that has nothing to do with them. It could be a class or a running plan, or finally cooking that recipe you saved. It doesn't need to be a big reinvention. It's just something that belongs to your life now.
Check in on your body
Ten days of stress can show up physically, in tight shoulders, headaches or bad sleep. Moving helps more than most people expect. A walk, a swim or a stretch before bed won't fix a breakup, but it can take the edge off a long day.
A note on hope
Around here some people find themselves hoping the ex will reach out first. That's natural, but if your days revolve around checking, the waiting becomes its own kind of contact. Try to keep the focus on how you're doing, whether or not they ever reach out.